How We Can Help Those Who Are Grieving

Grieving people need someone to listen, and all the care, encouragement and support they can get to help them re-establish their lives.

Some of their most important needs are:

  • the need to feel SUPPORT
  • the need to face REALITY
  • the need to express FEELINGS
  • the need to move towards RE-ESTABLISHMENT and GO ON LIVING

In other words, TO HELP A FRIEND IN GRIEF, we need to be:

  • AWARE – working through grief is a normal and necessary part of life
  • THERE – we can’t solve this problem, but just being around to listen and provide support will help
  • SENSITIVE – our friends have suffered a deep loss, even if we don’t see it as such. We need to be there for them through their pain, not try to take it away
  • HUMAN – we need to allow our friends to openly express all their feelings without judging them. Nobody has to justify their feelings – they are quite normal
  • READY – to listen when the story is told over and over again. Talking about the deceased by name is a vital step towards recovery
  • PATIENT – mourning the loss of a loved one takes as much time as it takes